CONSCIOUS PARENTING LECTURE 2: THE PRICE OF PRAISE
In this session Naomi Aldort debunks the benefits of praise, reveal it’s harmful effects, and find other tools for giving feedback, emotional support and unconditional trust and appreciation. Learn how to nurture the child’s endeavors without controlling her direction. How praise destroys self-esteem, motivation, self-trust, parent-child relationship and confidence. How to encourage without undermining the child’s self-direction. Expressing appreciation unconditionally. What is insecurity and how to build self-confidence instead. Achievement and learning without praise.
1. Introduction
2. Why praise doesn't get us what we want
3. Question: If an older child wants to try drinking or smoking
4. Why praise doesn’t get us what we want (cont.)
5. Question: The relationship between sports and praise
6. Summing up the harm of praise
7. What to do instead of praise
8. Question: Interacting with a toilet-training child
9. Question: How to respond to a child who’s very excited with what they did
10. Question: What about when we are genuinely excited?
11. Example from participant - What happens when you praise
12. Comment from participant - The business of praise is very modern
13. Question: When teachers praise our children
14. Question: Does praising between adults set a bad example for children?
15. Question: When a child asks “do you like it?”
16. Points on praise
17. Question: Is it praise to tell children that they were "helpful"?
18. Question: How to interact with a child who’s drawing something
19. Making sure children feel valued
20. Question: How to deal with an older child hitting a younger child
21. Question: What impact does praise from others have on our children?
22. Question: Changing parenting methods on your children
23. Question: When children want feedback
24. Comment from participant - How to best coach children
25. Question: When a child says “I can’t play like my mother” about piano
26. Question: When a child asks for help
2 HOURS
